Radical acceptance does not mean that you agree with what is happening or what has happened to you. Rather, it signals a chance for hope because you are accepting things as they are and not fighting against reality.VeryWellMind.com
I have been doing a good amount of self-reflection lately, and it’s become glaringly apparent that, in some cases, that I am holding myself back.
Of course, this doesn’t invalidate my experiences, they happened and they are painful, but it is my responsibility to move forward from them.
It has also been revealed to me during my self-reflection spells that I have not been the best person. All I can do from this stage is focus on bettering myself.
I have said, and done things in the past that genuinely horrify who I am now. The grim reality is that I behaved in those ways due to mental illness, and needed self-preservation, but that does not make it right.
While I cannot change these things, beating myself up for the past hasn’t helped either, so it’s now time to heal.
I’m going to focus on accepting myself for who I am, flaws and all, then heal. Some events need to be kept private, others, I might share if/when I feel comfortable.