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Borderline Personality Disorder & Relationships

Mentalhealth.gov describes Borderline Personality Disorder as the following:

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a mental health condition in which a person has long-term patterns of unstable or turbulent emotions. These inner experiences often result in impulsive actions and chaotic relationships with other people.

In today’s post, I’ll be talking about the ways that BPD may impact your relationship.

Unstable Moods

Their moods will change on a whim. This won’t be your fault most of the time. People with BPD feel, a lot, and it has hard to regulate our feelings.

Things that can seem trivial to some, can trigger intense emotions in an indivisible with BPD. They’ll calm down in time.


Abandonment Issues

People with BPD will have horrible thoughts that involve you leaving them. This can happen multiple times a day, in some cases.

We might often ask for validation that you still care for us, that you still love us, and want us around. It’s something that we need to be reminded of, often.

It’s not that we don’t trust your intentions, our feelings just overwhelm us.


We Don’t Want To Hurt You

Amber Heard being diagnosed with BPD has brought attention to the disorder, and not always in the best ways.

Of course, when our moods aren’t great, it is inevitable that we might upset you during an episode. This is never our intention, and we feel guilty about it afterwards, once we’ve calmed down.

Abusers can have BPD, but not everyone with BPD is an abuser.


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2 thoughts on “Borderline Personality Disorder & Relationships

  1. For about a year and up until just a few weeks ago, I worked very closely with a client with Borderline Personality Disorder. At first we got along great, but after a couple of months she got used to me and the “honeymoon period” was over. From then on, the way I was treated was incredibly toxic. For a lot of that time I just did not know how to respond. But, thankfully, I found a book called I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me that was incredibly informative and helped me to have a better understanding and better means of communicating with my client for the remainder of the time I worked with her.

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    1. It’s such a misunderstood disorder, I’m glad that book exists, it explains it so well.
      For the most part, the toxicity isn’t intentional. It’s just hard to keep up with it all.

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